The Uniqueness of Your Body
Sometimes I think about how we all experience love differently. For each and every one of us, our experience of loving and being loved is different. Whether it is falling in love in a romantic relationship, or the way that we love and feel safe with a trusted friend, or even the way we were loved by our parents and family, we all experience and give love differently.
Every single one of us is walking through life with a unique experience, a unique lens with how we view the world, a unique way that we love, think, move, and live.
I have talked a lot about the sameness of humans. The sameness of our bodies in enabling us to live, breath, move, experience life. We do have this shared experience in that our bodies are a vehicle that allow us to live.
But what if instead, we focused on that uniqueness that we all have. What if we focused on the fact that our body is uniquely ours. That no other human on this Earth will ever understand what it is like to live in your body.
What if our unique way of loving and living and existing in our bodies was meant to be celebrated rather than looked down upon? What if we chose to see beauty in our uniqueness rather than to mark it down as a failure? What if having a unique perspective in our life and in our bodies is a super power rather than a failing?
Think about that for a second.
Only you know what it is likely to be you. Your partner doesn’t truly know, your best friend doesn’t, nor your parents, your child, or your therapist. Only you know what it is like to be you. What a unique and wonderful thing to celebrate.
With that in mind, I want you to use the following reframes if you find yourself comparing your body or judging your body against someone else:
“I wish I had their body! They look great.”
Your body is great too. You are unique, your body is unique, and your experience is unique. Wouldn’t life be boring if we were all identical in body and mind?
“I hate my body. It is disgusting.”
You may dislike your body at this moment, that feeling is valid. But sit with it. Then pivot, what about your body is unique, wonderful, or special to you? What do you admire about it? Think through that.
“I will be happy once I hit XYZ weight.”
My weight does not define me. Repeat that again. So much of what our body looks like is outside of our control. Genetics, environmental factors, medications, and a myriad of things mean that weight is uncontrollable and so instead focus on how your body is uniquely yours. Your genetics, your brain, everything about you is unique and enjoying that specialness doesn’t have to wait until you lose weight.
