How to Quit the Comparison Game
Body Confidence Tip #1 of 2023: Stop comparing yourself to others
I have to admit something to you. It has been a big, dark, scary secret in my life, but I want to share it with you.
I am obsessed with comparing myself to others.
Yup. That is it. That right there is the big scary thing that has dictated my happiness and life since I was 8 years old.
To be honest, I am not sure where it started or where it came from, but I have always watched other people, looked at their body, their hair, their makeup, and started playing the comparison game. It didn’t stop there either.
I have also been known to compare my work success, my relationship, and my friendships to those of others. Someone is on an amazing trip and I see it on social media, well here I go comparing myself, my trip, my experience, my life to theirs.
It often lands me in the same spot. Feeling poorly about myself. Feeling like a loser. Feeling like I am not enough. That my body is not enough, my job is not enough, that I simply am not enough.
It is an awful, awful, awful feeling that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
So over the past few years I have developed some tools to stop the constant comparison game, and things have gotten SO MUCH BETTER! So let me share with you!
My rules for stopping the comparison game:
Unfollow any social media accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. This includes muting family, friends, and loved ones. Especially if you find yourself coveting their body or their life. You are awesome and don’t need to be thirsting after the lives of others.
Stop comparing your body to another body. I do this by reminding myself of a couple things, 1. I have no idea their relationship with their body or how they got it, remember genetics folks! 2. Remind myself of three awesome things about my own body, like the things you love or honor or celebrate, 3. Return to positive self talk (your body is awesome as it is).
Bask in the beauty of your life. How often do you stop to be like, “Wow, I am grateful for this body that moves me through life, a job I love, friendships that fill my cup, and a partner I love.” Try gratitude to remind you that your life has so much joy in it and doesn’t need to be compared to another.
Comment below if you’re trying these tips and let me know how they go!
